Bitches Be Crazy

*Warning* There is some fowl language below, it's in the screen-shots. *Warning*

So I have had this "friend" named Amber.  In fact I talked about her last year on my blog by wishing her a happy birthday and telling her I loved her.  Last year, I also talked to her nearly every day, hung out with her, and even accompanied her as the third wheel for a date in Tooele she was worried about.  I even drove on that date because she didn't want to drive!  I try to be a good friend, and I think that goes above and beyond.

Now, as a pre-statement, this isn't the first time she's acted like this.  Last year a group of friends and I went camping, and a few weeks before we texted (both Josh and I) Amber to tell her when we were going and let her know she was welcome to come.  We never heard from her, so we went ahead and went.  When we got back, she freaked out at us both and called us horrible names saying we were liars and had never invited her.  We didn't talk for months after.

Well, we made up and I added her back to Facebook and she sent MASSIVE amounts of invites begging everyone to join her and play Farmville and Petville, and various other games; Except, I didn't want to.  She even popped up on my messenger telling me to do it, and when I told her I didn't want to, she freaked.  She said "What, are you too good for these games?"  I told her no, and that my life was too busy and I didn't have time to waste online playing games, and that I did have a farm, but had created it at a time when I had nothing better to do.  Her response was "ARE YOU SAYING I HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO WITH MY LIFE?!?!?!?" I tried to calm her down and say I wasn't implying anything, and then I avoided talking to her because she picks a fight over everything.

Well Monday on Facebook was the absolute end of any kind of friendship we ever had.  All because she did what she always does and freaked out over something insignificant.   I took screen-shots, because it's so bizarre I didn't think anyone would believe me.

(Last names are blurred to protect the innocent, y'know, except for the non innocent.)

So it was my status, where I was just being funny, that SHE left a rude comment on.  I figured I'd just joke around back (even if there was a little truth in that joke!)  So this is what I was greeted with the next day.

I'll admit, at first I was shaky, because that's how I feel when someone is attacking me, but then I just didn't care.  She's caused enough drama in my life and it's about time I was done dealing with her.  I texted a few friends and had them go look, especially since we were mutual friends and I wanted them to understand my decision to cut her out of my life.

*NOTE* Where she said "I'm sure you'll tell me the same thing that, that's the way everyone feels about me"  That's what all of my friends HAVE told me.  They told me she's drama and throws fits over stupid stuff so I should just not worry about it, I should have listened and deleted her the first time they told me!

My good friend Ortie texted me with: "She must be talking about herself!  She must not consider me part of the group, because I never talk to her and I love you."  Which immediately made me feel better.  Then, as the day went on I quickly learned that one kind word from a true friend can override many hateful words from a fake.  My amazing friends quickly came to my defense and I felt so much love from the way they spoke about me.  See for yourself!

Heather's right, she probably reacted that way because I struck a cord with something she doesn't like about herself.  A lot of Psychologists say we attack the things in others that we hate about ourselves.

A little light joking is great in a stressful situation.  David also texted me "Let's forget the crazy lady and be happy!"

I was so touched by what Bree had to say, she's such a sweetheart!

I love how Anjula totally stood up for me!

Yeah, my sister was probably the most correct. LOL!  Honestly, I generally never have problems with my friends, but little sisters always know the part of you that can be "pissy and mean" don't they?  Haha!

At first I was a little offended at what Josh said (this is my roommate) but then Heather said "Aren't we all drama queens?  She's just the one with the problem about it!"  and Josh agreed with her.  He's just reinforcing what I said earlier about people attacking things in others they don't like in themselves.  I love how he signed it kisses!

Thanks Andy!  You rock my socks off too!

Haha!  Kristina is super protective of me.

Haha!  This is extra funny because she freaked out over the Farmville thing, go Jon, and thanks for thinking I'm a great friend!

I love my friends they really are awesome!  If you'll notice, I never responded to her, and I didn't need to.  The love of my friends spoke volumes, and each of their comments touched me deeply!

Then my friend Angel messaged me the conversation they had.

2:48pm Angel

are you ok?

2:49pm Amber
yeah why?

2:49pm Angel
just saw what you wrote on Angie's wall

2:50pm Amber
yeah so.. honey, I've never liked angie.. big deal. ya know?

2:51pm Angel
ah. ok. i thought you did
 

2:51pm Amber
no, honey I tried to like her but she's 2 much drama for me

i have enough drama duh!
 

2:52pm Angel
lol yeah
 

2:53pm Amber
I hate reading all her stupid post every fucking day and I was only joking at first, but as usual she had to make it drama lol

WTF?  If you'll look back to that first screen-shot-I'd like you to be the judge of who started the drama here.

That conversation is just funny to me, because it either makes her A: a liar and hypocrite, or B: A user.  Because she sure thought I was a great friend when I coaxed her through her boy drama (when she texted her boyfriend a million times because she hadn't heard from him and freaked out until he eventually dumped her.) or when I drove her to Tooele and had a horrible time playing the third wheel, but did it to be a good friend.  So she's either lying now about how she felt then, or she was using me then, which is good to know because I don't need either of those traits in a friend!.

Since all of this happened, her 10 year old daughter tried to add me on Facebook and we're thinking either Amber wanted her to so she could check up on me, or she wanted to be able to chew me out for her mother.  When I didn't add the little girl, she started messaging my friend Angel and asking her if she liked me and calling me a drama queen.  It's funny, I only met the girl once, and it was because I gave her a ride to her friends house on the other side of town... That must make me a horrible person.

Amber and her daughter are deleted and I've blocked them, and the only sad part is she deleted me before she got to see all of those wonderful responses from my friends (and a couple of hers) that pointed out how crazy she is; but that's ok, it's not like she would have changed anyway.  I'm much better off having all of these wonderful friends in my life than wasting time worrying about her.  Losing her was no skin off my back, I just thought I'd post all this because it was HILARIOUS!

Personally, when drama comes into my life I get a good laugh, share it with all my wonderful readers (that's you, hope you laughed too!) and then cut it out of my life!  I foresee a lot less drama now.  :)

*NOTE: I didn't post this to be negative, rather to show the outpouring of love and support I received from my friends and family.  I am so lucky to have them in my life!*